Sunday, August 31, 2008
How Do They Move Forward?
This article was graciously written by Anya in response to a reader's request for discussion on this topic.
The Gosselin blog world has been swirling over the last several weeks with rumors of estrangement between Jon and Kate and "Aunt Jodi." (Surprisingly Kate's brother, Kevin - Jodi's husband - is rarely mentioned in the various accounts.)
Despite rabid speculation and conjecture by a handful of dedicated Kate-haters, as well as some insider information imprudently provided by Jodi's bitter sister Julie, we really know very little for certain. This hasn't really changed despite the recent release of a very short video made by a clearly emotional Jodi certifying the accusations made on her sister's blog as "the truth."
Putting all the pieces of information together, there does appear to be some sort of rift between the couples. Many viewers are upset because what we have seen of Jodi and Kevin has been very positive. The two couples - young, good looking and each with LOTS of kids complemented each other nicely. It was fun seeing the "guys" - Jon and Kevin - work on home projects together and seeing the Gosselin kids with their younger cousins (according to Kate, Mady has a special bond with Jodi and Kevin's youngest son).
Almost all of us have been involved in a family disagreement or estrangement at one time or another. Of course, we were lucky enough not to have our dirty laundry aired for all the internet to see, but that doesn't change the fundamental issues that are facing the two couples now. Obviously, for there to be healing, somebody has to make the first move. Most would agree it would be in the children's best interest for somebody to step up to the plate. Doing so could provide a valuable lesson to the children that forgiveness is always possible and families can overcome slights and hurt feelings.
Or perhaps you have a different opinion? Have you faced a similar situation? Did you choose to walk away for good or did you take the steps needed towards reconciliation? Or maybe you have been lucky enough to escape the family drama many of us have experienced. We would still like to hear your advice for the couples.
Of course, all views are welcomed with the caveat that pointing fingers at "Person J" or "Person K" as being responsible for everything isn't really constructive advice. Whatever happened happened. How do they move forward?
Posted by Nina Bell at 4:42 PM