Friday, March 27, 2009

RANDOM QUESTION


Are you living the life you thought you would be 10 years ago?

20 comments:

indianprincess said...

I would have to say yes. Ten years ago I didn't think I would be alive because I was living a dangerous life of self destruction with an eating disorder and drinking. It took me along time to believe in myself and to change my life around. It's good to be me and even though I've been struggling healthwise with anemia and low blood pressure I'm really fulfilled with my life. I have a great marriage and some beautiful crazy children. Life is worth!!!

Liza Beth said...

Not at all. If things had gone as I thought they would 10 years ago I would be married with a couple of kids already and be a Kindergarten teacher. But things changed and circumstances happened which made me see that while those are all things I thought I wanted, God had other plans for my life.

It has taken me a few years to truly have peace with how everything changed, but at this point I can honestly say I am happy with how things are and how they will soon be changing again. So while my life is completely different from how I expected, at least I know that I have contentment and peace with my choices.

Kel said...

Sort of...I thought we'd have two kids by now and I'd be at home writing and volunteering with preschool and such...but I am married to my adorable husband, we got married 10 years ago in July so, I'm almost where I thought I'd be!

themrs said...

not at all... ten years ago i was in college and having my first baby. i thought i'd focus on a career and maybe have more kids. if someone had told me then i'd be a SAHM with number five on the way, deliriously happily married and stable i'd have never believed it. i too was on a terrible path. i'm so thankful that God intervened in my life.

Saint said...

Not really. Ten years ago, my husband and I had plans to move to a larger home, but our children grew more outspoken as they got older, and they resisted the change. They love their home, schools, friends. So we considered their feelings, and decided to scrap that plan. Now his job situation means we'll have to move anyway, far away (where they have delicious biscuits.) Ten years ago I would have made a prediction about ten years ahead. But today? I don't even know what next year will bring.

Nina Bell said...

Hard to answer because I never really think 10 years in advance. I am pretty sure I felt I would still be married to the same man (32 years this May) and I would have the same career since it has been very good to me financially and I enjoy it.

Thinking ahead to 10 years from now, I see myself retired and just relaxing and enjoying life with my family.

Eileen said...

Saint, very well said about not knowing what next year will bring, let alone ten years from now!

Ten years ago my husband and I had an idea that we would be retired or at least semi-retired by now and living down south. Circumstances changed drastically over those years, there were lots of family obligations, and still more today. So those plans of moving away and living the easy life are on hold, and we'll just see what tomorrow brings. No matter, life is good.

In my youth, I too was on the path of self destruction. God was very good to me and Saved me from myself, and He sent me a good man even though I didn't deserve him at the time. 'Hope I've made it up to him in the intervening years.

Steph said...

not at all! I'm in a MUCH BETTER PLACE!

Kikibee said...

Well, ten years ago my kids were almost three and almost six. I pretty much knew where I would be but I couldn't imagine what it would be like to have two teenagers. I always loved babies and little kids but I find I like older ones now as well. It's fun to see what kind of people they are becoming.

The only thing I really don't like is that I'll be "going to school"
until I'm almost sixty. And that's just high school. I had my kids at 36 and 39, and that's one thing I didn't think about (not that it would have changed anything). I just don't like living by the school schedule.
But, yay, next week is spring break!

Saint said...

Kikibee,
I just love teens too. I agree that it's neat to see the people they're becoming. It's something to watch my oldest drive away and remember him "pretend driving" with a paper plate for his imaginary steering wheel. Ten years has made a huge difference when I think of it that way. (Do I still look the same?)

32 years, Nina? Congratulations! (You must have been married in Kindergarten!)

Jenn said...

Ten years ago, almost to the day, my girlfriend and I packed up a uhaul and moved from AZ to CO. We didn't have jobs, only 1 car between 3 girls, and had rented a townhouse via the internet. We didn't know anything about where we were headed. I had no idea what we were in store for. I didn't think I wanted kids either.

Flashforward 10 years.. married, two kids and still in colorado. not where i thought i would be, but i'm where i was meant to be. :)

p.s. the snow is already melting!

Nina Bell said...

Jenn,

I love that life story. Sounds like it would make a good book.

merryway said...

Indianprincess, Sounds like you made you good decisions to get yourself where you are. I think that's impressive.

Nina, 32 years!!! That's amazing, congratulations to you both on a successful marriage. Wow.

My life is very different than what I thought. I was supposed to be financially secure and touring Europe. I thought I would be wallering in some self-indulgence since the boys were raised and in college. However, a little surprise came my way and she was born the month before I turned 40. There's 21 year gap in the age differences between her and her two older brothers. So, I just started all over again, only this time it's just me as sp.

I learned along the way that things I planned on 20 years ago aren't really what I wanted or as important as I thought they once were. I learned I am just one of those people who prefer being single and I don't need all the things I thought I were worth working myself into the ground to get. I try to teach this little one contentment instead of desire. I have been content with my life for a good many years. So, it's not what I planned but I am pleased with where I ended up and how it's going.

Eileen said...

Very nice story, merryway! You sound like you live a life of substance with a true appreciation for what really matters in life.

In fact, I think you all have nice stories.

merryway said...

Thanks Eileen, I have really enjoyed reading everyone's posts on the last few threads. Reading everyone's bosses stories was a hoot. I love ending my night this way w/a cup tea.

nomoredrama said...

Definitely not! I don't have a super fun story but 10 years ago I thought I'd be an English Teacher in high school. I was going to write and perform and do all sorts of artsy things.

If you would have told me 10 years ago that I'd be a therapist (and likely pursuing a doctorate) I would have laughed. If you would have told me ten years ago that I'd be single without kids at this age, I'd probably be disappointed.

But things work out for the best. I LOVE the work I do (maybe not so much the employer at the moment, haha) and as for being single, well, I'm still young. I'm content with my life now and look forward to more surprises in my next 10 years.

Nina Bell said...

Nomoredrama.

I predict that in 10 years you will have your doctorate, at least six kids (LOL) and your own reality TV show called "I was a Gosselin blogger."

nomoredrama said...

LMAO! Are you saying in ten years I'm actually going to become Octomom?

Anya said...

Some of you have great stories! I am not the type of personality who generally thinks 5, 10 years ahead (probably a good and bad thing).

I know I have changed in the last ten years, however. Hitting 40 has brought a certain sense of security and acceptance of myself. Not that all my insecurities have disappeared, but as a whole, I care a little bit less what others think and concentrate on my own gut and the opinions of those I really care about.

Also, I am much less work-focused and more driven to learning - not just to further my career - but just for the sheer love of knowledge....

SamanthaNC said...

Jenn I love that! "Not where I thought I'd be, but where I'm meant to be".

Me too.