Monday, May 4, 2009

Jon Gosselin's Mystery Woman Breaks Her Silence

"The woman who set blogs ablaze last week for stepping out with Jon Gosselin has come forward to say that there's absolutely nothing romantic going on between her and the married reality star of TLC's Jon & Kate Plus 8."

Click here to read the rest of the story in People.com.

36 comments:

AAP said...

I figured it would only be a matter of time before this person would have been hunted down for a statement! I really thought it would be the National Enquirer who would get the story 1st, if for no other reason then they are a tabloid, and that's what they do. The fact it was in People makes me think that J&K's PR people had something to do with access to her. Unfortunately, I think they should have briefed her statement better.

I don't know what the relationship between these 2 are, and really don't want to speculate on that. However, there was a couple of things in the article that caught my attention. 1) Her age - unless she's a former "helper" or a friend of a former "helper" or a family friend's sister or cousin, I can't see them hanging out in the same circles on a regular basis. 2) There's NO mention of Kate at all in the article. If the social circle Jon and this girl move in included Kate I would be screaming from the top of my lungs not only is nothing going on, but I know his wife and we are all friends who hangs out with us as well.

Nina Bell said...

AAP

I tend to agree.

Momof2 said...

I just don't care anymore....so much speculation. Thanks for the link..this is the first place I'd seen the "breaking news".

Nina Bell said...

I don't know if it is breaking news, but thanks Quiltart for sending in the link.

Momof2 said...

I meant Breaking News to those who are teetering on the J&K story...not here of course. I am think I am over this "scandal"...LOL

Liza Beth said...

Momof2, I am with you! I'm just amazed that this gossip is even considered 'news.' There are so many bigger (and, dare I say it, more interesting!!)stories to be talking about.

I do trust People magazine far more than In Touch or Star or any of those. At least People validates sources before posting.

iheartmyhubby said...

Whatever the circumstances of their "friendship," it does seem like this marriage is going through a rough patch, like so many reality marriages seem to do. I wish they would quit the show and focus on fixing their marriage and being parents to their kids. Have you seen Kate's travel schedule? She seems to be gone an awful lot. If I were her, I would reexamine my priorities.

Meg said...

Ugh. As much as I hate to admit it, this girl's statement made it look bad. 23 years old? Just met a couple months ago? Been to each others houses? No mention she knows Kate? Into cars ( oh puhleeze ). She was clearly into Jon.

I'm sorry, but it gave me the feeling that had they not gotten caught, sooner or later something would have happened. Chicks like her that frequent bars...at her age and with his celebrity....pursue. That's what they do. I wonder if he met her at the college party.

Linda said...

What in the heck is a married 30-something year old with 8 kids socializing with 20 year olds at a club?

Boggles my mind.

As a couple, their dynamic is extremely dysfunctional, BUT if this is true he is even more immature than I had previously thought.

Three Amazing Kids said...

I would be pissed if I were his wife. This still stinks.

Linda said...

If I were her, I would reexamine my priorities.In all fairness, it seems like BOTH of them need to re-examine their priorities.

Guinevere said...

Whatever the circumstances of their "friendship," it does seem like this marriage is going through a rough patch, like so many reality marriages seem to do.Or marriages in general. Nothing that J&K are going through is remotely unique, at least in terms of marriage trouble, balancing career and family, and alleged infidelity.

The story didn't make me feel that much better about any of the circumstances. On the one hand, I guess we can put to bed the idea that she is a "very young girl". OTOH, she is still substanially younger than Jon and unlikely to have much in common with him, which makes one wonder why they are hanging out, which leads to all sorts of unsavory speculation. Jon needs to grow up. He may have missed some of his wild partying days by marrying young and having such a large family, but that's not something he really has the option to try to get back, now. I mean, he can do it, but he'll be hurting people and making himself look like a fool. No good can come of it.

Florida Mom said...

Just for a minute, think of a different scenario. Kate at a bar with a 23 year old male friend at 2:00am.

I have never been a Kate defender, but the double standard is mind blowing. I feel his actions are reckless.

I love how his friend is appalled that anyone could think anything was going on. It could all be perfectly innocent, but to think the public would look at this and not think it odd, is naive at best.

Mom said...

Yea, I don't buy any of it. The whole "just met a couple months ago" and "been to each others houses" coupled with no mention of Kate and "I'm really into cars."

Geez Louise! What an awful piece. Yuck. That's about all I can say.

Weed said...

What goes on behind closed doors - we'll never know. A few things popped out at me too. When is this girl at Jon & Kate's home? She never mentioned being friends with Kate - despite her age I can see her being in a "group" of friends that include Jon - it's just the lack of mentioning Kate and being in Jon's home that struck me as odd. Do you think she might have been an old helper with the kids? A friend of the helper?? So many questions but we'll never get the answers - - but the more it's in the News (especially with that frontpage CNN story yesterday) the more I'm going to keep questioning this. Is it a PR stunt to get viewers for Season 5 - is it Jon's way of getting out of Season 5?? Again with the questions - I need to focus on my own problems but to be honest with all the problems I have in my life right now, husband lost his job in December, step-daughter getting married in a few weeks, helping sister raise and support 4 grandchildren, my daughter going through serious health issues - - putting J&K's problems in the forefront gets my mind off my problems at least for alittle while and it helps!! Sometimes you just need to push yours away for just a few minutes...at least I do and it helps when I come back to mine. I have a little better outlook - a little more energy and I can use all the help I can get.

Linda said...

FloridaMom is right. If the tables were turned, Jon would be called the "long suffering husband" and she would be "whoring around."

Because it is Jon -- at least among some bloggers -- Kate is blamed.

DurhamDora said...

I hope this girl realizes what she's getting herself into by talking to People and releasing her name. I can only hope that the Gosselin police leave her the hell alone and move on with their lives. I can only imagine what they're scheming now, as it's their duty in life to find out more about her I'm sure.

I agree with the poster who said that all marriages go through rough patches. Nobody ever said marriage is easy. I don't know though, my husband and I hit rough patches about working too much, not communicating well, etc. We've never hit a rough patch because he was hanging out with a girl who was ten years younger than him. So I can't speak to that. My personal opinion (not that it matters) is that he was drunk and she was driving him home. I'm wondering if Jon didn't want to admit that he was drunk though and instead just decided to say this girl is into cars and wanted to drive his cheesy car (I have to laugh at the car; I mean, he can drive whatever he wants, but I think cars with spoilers are hilarious).

Regardless, I'm over it.

Eileen said...

Weed, I'm so sorry to hear about all the problems your family is having. And I know what you mean about having a distraction from life, it does help sometimes.
I hope things turn around for you soon.
'Putting you on my prayer list.

nomoredrama said...

I agree with everyone. This article doesn't make things better, it just adds more questions.

Even if it was innocent, why (as everyone else said) is he hanging out with a 23 year-old, in her "group of friends" at one another's house....

It's very inappropriate. I, too, am uncomfortable at the lack of mention of Kate.

Not changing my mind and I have a feeling it will happen again in some way.

SamanthaNC said...

Did this sentence rub anyone else the wrong way:

She adds that Gosselin "has a great family life. I would never ever think to pursue anything."That would PISS me off even more if I were Kate. You would never think to pursue anything? To me that sounds like, "If I had wanted him I would already have him."

The whole thing seems shady as all get out to me. It's good that she said something I suppose, but I don't know that it comes off very well.

I wish them the very best, it must be so embarrassing to go through a marital rough patch in the public eye.

Weed said...

Thanks Eileen for your prayers - in these times we all need them and it is welcomed!!
With the friends putting their 2 cents in and the "girl" friend coming out and giving her side - it's just making things worse IMO.
If the tables were turned and Jon treated Kate like she does him on the show - I don't think it would be so scandalous. Poor woman - abusive husband - she needs someone, he's also on the road too much, blah,blah. I do wonder what Kate is doing while on the road, is she just better at hiding things, have a better set of handlers?? 'Cause I honestly don't think Kate is innocent, I think something or someone has put a smile and hop in her step - she's changed and whenever I've seen a woman or man change like she has - something is going on!! It's just my opinion though, don't shoot me. As I stated nobody knows what happens when the cameras are off and the doors are closed - and we shouldn't but they shouldn't be putting their dirty laundry out there for the world to see and then get offensive when pictures are taken and gossip runs amok (spelling??) They need to stop this foolishness and start concentrating on what is really important - those 8 children they wanted so badly!! Just my observation from reading and watching the show - it's like the children are an after-thought now - like they don't fit into their new lifestyle. It's just so dang sad -- I just don't know what to say so I'll shut up for now :-)

Jacelynn said...

I really don't care what the relationship is, I think Jon acted out extremely poor judgement and has hurt not only his wife, but his children. I think something is off with both her and Jon's story and frankly we will never know the real truth, but Im wondering has Kate had anything to say? I mean if it really were a 30-ish man just being friends with a 23 year old girl and nothing else was going on and Kate knew and she was fine with it wouldn't she say something to the press about it? Or maybe she has and I just missed it?

Anyways what happily married 30 year old man wants to be friends with a 23 year old? Honestly, I just had to ask my husband if he would and he said, and this I quote: "Hell no, the are immature and way too giggly." And really if my husband were clubbing and going to bars with 23 year old girls while I was away working my butt off to secure our family's future I would be extremely hurt, even if they were just friends.

jb said...

SamanthaNC said:

I wish them the very best, it must be so embarrassing to go through a marital rough patch in the public eye.

****

Yeah, but they're adults and hold the strings and can choose to remove themselves from the public eye. What about the kids and all of their embarrassing moments that their very own parents have allowed to be seen by anyone and at anytime now or in their future?

Daisy said...

Well said, Jacelynn. I really do hope they can work things out.

Samantha, I agree. It must be embarrassing. Maybe that's why Kate hasn't said anything. I wish them the best also.

nancy019 said...

Meg-

Chicks like her that frequent bars...at her age and with his celebrity....pursue.

Or is it...dudes at his age that frequent bars WITH his celebrity...
pursue. Let's not blame it all on her, he clearly got himself into this mess.

Jacelynn said...

IMO neither one of them deserves full blame. We just don't know enough about the situation to know who was entirely wrong, and really unless Jon lied about who he is and she has recently left an Amish upbringing they are both at fault.

I do think it would be extremely embarrassing for Kate but I do think if it was all innocent and she knew about it that she would say something about it. I just find it odd that a woman who has something to say about EVERYTHING Jon does has nothing to say about this.

Weed said...

Jacelynn you're right - Kate can't keep her mouth shut, ever!! And this is the one time when she should be defending her husband, if only for her children's sake - and she's finally quiet??? Nope - don't buy it. She's keeping quiet to make herself look better - the long suffering, hard working Mother. Husband is cheating while she's out making a living to support all those children and free loading husband. That's how she'll spin it - IMO. Like she never berated him on National Television. My husband and I were talking about it over the weekend during our evening walk - the one comment that gets me the most was when she was complaining about his "breathing" - she had a melt-down, the poor guy can't even breath right! And when she jump down his throat for interrupting her - yes, interrupting her. ROTFLMAO. Oh you gotta give her credit - - she honestly lives in her own little world.

Momof2 said...

I have to admit...I troll the other blog... the spin now is Kate beats and physically abuses her kids....some people really have nothing better to do. Seems like there are more level headed people here and there's a happy medium.

I think Kate is smart to be silent...I do think they are just buying their time though. The statement was put out by the girlfriend to possibly put an end to the speculation and so it wouldn't do any damage to book sales/ratings. It does not look good but I am not going to assume I know who's doing what. This just makes me work harder on my own marriage.

bigsis88 said...

It's a really sad situation, but I agree that it will probably happen again. Neither Jon nor this "mystery woman" have specifically addressed the poor judgment they showed in the situation, and I think that will be an excuse for things like this to keep happening. I know Jon gave a generic "I'm sorry," but neither of them addressed why this sort of behavior is inappropriate (or that they realize that fact). Their defensiveness (and that backhanded statement that you mentioned, SamanthaNC) is really off-putting to me, because it's reminiscent of the "You made me cheat!" stereotype.

*Disclaimer: I'm not alleging that any cheating occurred, but both Jon and Deanna seem to be deflecting blame, rather than taking responsibility.

3KMOM said...

When I read the age of the girl being 23 that rubbed me the wrong way. I am a fan of the show and still am but this I felt was totally inappropriate when it first came out but now hearing her age makes it even more inappropriate. What does Jon have in common w/ a 23yr old woman? Usually when you gravitate out of your age zone its to older people b/c of mentorship and that kind of thing. For one this girl can't possibly have been a former helper/babysitter I mean they've only known each other a few months according to her. It sounds like he definelty has a life outside of Kate and the kids. I am not trying to judge him and I really have always thought the best of him and I'm still trying to but the whole mess is just inappropriate. I hope these types of situations aren't leading up to anything more and that he puts a stop to his tolerant and decensatized behavior towards their relationship. If he is turning outside their marriage for emotional support or talks to this girl about his relationship w/ Kate then that is totally wrong and if I were Kate I would be furious. This girl should know better as well. She holds her own personal responsiblity in this. A 23yr old woman should not be welcome in Jon and Kate's relationship.

Jen said...

All I know is, if my 38 year old husband suddenly had a 23 year old "female friend" (or any age, for that matter) that he enjoyed going to bars with, we would be in a counselor's office pronto.

These two are clearly messing around and playing the public for fools. Their denial is classic. Duh, it's what people do when they get caught! Nothing's going on? Yeah right. If you believe their intentions are innocent and that this little chica just has an interest in Corona and Nissans, then you must be incredibly naive.

MrsRef said...

Why oh why can't these two just keep out of the public eye instead of letting their PR department release these ridiculous statements. If this is some sort of publicity stunt it is just sick. While Jon is not old, he is really starting to look like some kind of dirty old man.

shawna said...

As many of you have stated, this article really doesn't make things better.

If Jon wants to hang out with friends go golfing, to a game or out to an early dinner. Did he have to go to a bar until 2 am?

As for Kate....wasn't she the one in a recent magazine article that said they pass by each other (at home) and said to each other "see you at Christmas". There is some serious work that needs to be done on both sides!

Neither one are saints!

Just YUCK! said...

Yuck! This whole scandal is sooo boring already..."News" how is this "news"?! All I could think as I read her "alibi" is yeah right....

Jacelynn said...

I agree, neither one are saints BUT I have yet to see photos of Kate with a younger man leaving a bar at 2AM...... Im just saying, yes Kate and Jon have both done wrong but Jon's latest is just LOW.

lauren said...

I've been a viewer of the show since the beginning, not really a defender or hater, but I feel like I know exactly what's happened here. I'm sure someone else has said it, but what the heck I'll spell it out.

Kate is a type A personality. Type A's flock to people they can control. John doesn't necessary like being bossed around but somehow he is drawn to it, like girls who always go for the "bad guy." So he gets swept up in Kate, marries young, gets bossed around into having a ton of kids, somewhat willingly, and presto you have their season 1.

Then Kate gets even more controlling to handle the chaos, and John begins to feel like less and less of a man. Especially when she belittles him on tv.

To deal with the stress she nags, and sees him as one more person to parent. With the intensity level she doesn't notice becoming a really unpleasant.

To her credit, I really think she was swept up in being all about the kids at first. Then she got a taste of money and fame. Remember how she used to care very little about what she wore? It honestly seemed like she put her family first in those days, although annoying sometimes, I think she really did.

Then she changed. You can feel her self awareness now. She isn't thinking about those kids anymore. Its about her, her image, her clothes, her skinny new body, her book, her money, and house. She now can run with the big dogs, and especially her friend Beth the author. She has become what Beth was, the wealthy author with style. Her happiness and worth are no longer tied to John's love and her kids.

In the meantime that takes the purpose out of John. He begins to look for appreciation, attention, and conversation, not about their image, or what they need to obtain next. At this point being the primary care-giver for all those kids while Kate's away, he goes to take something for himself in rebellion.

I've seen it with my friend's husbands and my own. When the wife is away, the husband will talk himself into some stupid ideas without thinking about how it looks or the consequences. ie, ordering pizza in your underwear and drinking beer on the roof, or going to a bar getting drunk and having some stranger drive you home. Things they never think to do while you are around, because the wife fosters the responsibility part of the brain.

I could totally see John looking for some validation, someone to swoon over him. It can feel good to be admired or desired without acting on it. I have a feeling he just told himself he could linger around the idea without acting on it, and make himself feel good and wanted. Something Kate probably hasn't done in a long time. And then presto, it blows up in his face. I also agree from the pictures that he probably got drunk and wanted to hide that as well. I don't think he was guilty of cheating, but rather trying to mentally escape a life that no longer resembles the one he had.

It's just interesting to me that neither of them will address it to each other. John won't call her out on being a changed self-absorbed woman, and Kate won't venture toward the fact that John is not happy with his life the way it is. Since they usually don't mind pointing out the flaws in each other, it's just odd that they have remained silent on the very obvious. ie that WHOLE episode where they went green and John never pointed out how Kate was being absolutely negative and sulking the entire time. It seemed like she was mad that she had to stay home for once, instead of being off as a celebrity on her tour.

Someone should make them watch their old episodes and maybe they can pinpoint where they went wrong, because it seems very noticeable to me.