I am always surprised how many people think TV is real life! Reality television, like Jon and Kate Plus 8 is created by the network producers and directors to get ratings. How do they hold the viewers attention? They focus on the “drama”, the personality conflicts, the fights, the emotional defects, basically the “train wreck” about to happen.
No one knows what goes on in someone’s marriage except those two people. For those of you that are married and are so righteous about the “respect couples should always have for each other” think about your own marriages. If you have never had a fight, an argument, said a sarcastic word, called up a friend to bitch about your spouse watching five football games in a row, blamed them for losing the car keys, being late to pick up the kids from daycare, or forgetting your anniversary, you are either not being honest with yourselves or you are stuck in a Father Knows Best rerun!
You don’t know Jon and Kate! You don’t know how they treat each other when the camera is off. You don’t know how they fell in love or what their dreams were for their family. You don’t know how they are truly coping with having sextuplets, having eight children in total, and being in the fishbowl of a judging television audience.
I have been married for twenty five years. I still love my husband, but I don’t always like him! I guarantee if you filmed my husband, my twenty two year old son, my two dogs, one cat, and me, for twenty four hours a day, you could find a good hour of stress, sarcasm, arguing, and annoyance! Maybe people would be writing in about us and our lives, but that one hour wouldn’t tell you anything about us. No one would know what we’ve been through in twenty five years, or how comfortable we are with each other. No one would know what a good father my husband is, even though he had no role model what so ever.
No one knows what Jon and Kate’s marriage is really like except for them and it is not for us to judge. Remember, you are watching a television show, not real life.